1:1 coaching for the anxious-avoidant cycle
For anyone who got left right after it got good.
Make sense of the pull-away, calm the spiral, and leave with a clear next step. Coaching sessions from someone who has lived through loving a dismissive avoidant.
- 45-minute sessions
- Google Meet
- Evening times available
Sound familiar?
The moments nobody warns you about
The perfect weekend, then three days of silence.
Closeness can register as a threat to an avoidant nervous system. The pull-away is a reflex, not a verdict on you.
“I’m just not ready for anything serious.”
Often said by someone who has been acting serious for months.
The text you rewrote ten times.
Anxious attachment turns waiting into an emergency. That feeling is real, and it can be calmed.
Always being the one who reaches.
Over-explaining, over-texting, and shrinking your needs to keep them close.
Coaching sessions
What we’ll work on together
A focused, judgment-free 45 minutes about your relationship and your patterns.
Understand your situation
What the distance, the silence, and the mixed signals most likely mean in your case.
Calm the spiral
Practical ways to stop replaying, over-texting, and waiting by the phone.
Leave with a plan
Whether to stay, step back, or walk away, and how to ask clearly for what you need.
Choose a time
Pick an available slot. Your calendar invite and Google Meet link arrive right away.
Share some context
Answer one short question when you book, so we start with what matters most to you.
Talk it through
Join from your phone or laptop. Bring the texts, the timeline, and the questions you can’t stop asking.
Sessions are coaching, not therapy.
About
I’ve been where you are.
I loved a dismissive avoidant. Every time things got good, she got distant, and I kept searching for what I did wrong. I over-texted, over-explained, and waited by my phone.
Learning how attachment actually works changed everything. It wasn’t that I was too much. It was what closeness meant to her. Coaching sessions are where I walk you through what I wish someone had explained to me, applied to your situation.
Lived experience, not a therapist.
Who it’s for
Coaching sessions are a good fit if you…
- are dating, or just left, someone who pulls away when it gets close
- keep landing in the same push-pull cycle with different people
- want to understand your own anxious patterns, not just theirs
- are ready to stop guessing and start choosing
Articles
Understand the pattern
Plain-language guides to avoidant and anxious attachment.
- Dismissive avoidant
12 signs you’re dating a dismissive avoidant
From pulling away after closeness to dodging labels, and what each sign really means.
Read article → - Deactivation
Why do avoidants pull away when things get good?
What deactivation is, what triggers it, and how to respond without chasing.
Read article → - The cycle
The anxious-avoidant trap
Why you keep ending up in the same push-pull cycle, and how to step out of it.
Read article → - The silence
They went quiet: what to do when an avoidant stops texting
What the silence usually means, what to send, and how to calm the spiral.
Read article →
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching sessions are grounded in lived experience and education about attachment. If what you’re carrying needs a licensed professional, I’ll say so and encourage you to find one.
Is it private?
Yes. What you share in a session stays between us.
What if I’m not sure my partner is avoidant?
That’s a good reason to book. Part of the session is working out what’s really going on, whether it’s avoidance, disinterest, or something else.
Can I reschedule?
Yes. Message me on Instagram and we’ll find a new time.
You’re not too much. You just need a clearer picture.
One conversation can replace months of guessing.